Is He Wandering?

There is an old saying, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth". So as you are staring at my pretty smile and wickedly straight teeth in the above picture don't forget to listen to the sage advice coming out of my mouth about MEN.

Yes, I am a man and this is about MEN so you can trust that the advice is accurate because it is literally straight from the horse's mouth.

One disadvantage to being a woman is that women feel the need to nurture and "fix things". I hate to tell you this ladies but you can't fix something that was broken before you got your hands on it. So, in the world of men if your instincts tell you that something is wrong then believe it…something is wrong.


Attention = Affection

I have made that statement so many times in print that it is my official hallmark. You know when you first met your guy how "affectionate" he was and how much "attention" he gave you so that is the first place to look - the obvious.

The hard questions:

Does he treat you with the same "attention" as he did 6 months ago or even 3 months ago?

Does he "embrace" when your hot friends are around giving them special attention?

Does he give the equivalent or equal attention to females he does not know but not you?

How often does he hold your hand or give YOU affection in public?

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Does he have a FEMALE friend that you don't know or ever get to hang out with?

This is just the beginning ladies because I know that a percentage of you reading this are saying YES, yes he doing all of those things. Well if he is doing any or a number of those things he is wandering now if not he will be soon. Yes to any of those questions means only one thing in the world of men - YOUR BOY IS BORED. And we know what happens when a boy is bored…idle hands do the devil work.


Spare the Rod = Spoil the Child

The aforementioned is a religious connotation that works well in relationships as well. In other words if you don't keep your boy in line then his eyes will wander making his body wander which in turn will make his loyalties wander. Keep your eyes open for the most obvious subtleties and distractions because one thing leads to another… Porn is no exception - I am one of the first highly heterosexual men that will tell you:

PORN CHANGES THE WAY MEN THINK ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX

Some female don't care about porn but remember if he is looking at THEM he is not looking at YOU.

More Hard Questions

Does he look at too much porn?

Does he hide is porn consumption?

Does he receive porn at home?

Does he frequent titty bars or strip clubs often/for business?

Ladies if you think porn is harmless in the psychological sexual effects on men or your boy then you must be dating a eunuch. Men, all men, including young men who should not be reading this site have little control over their urges and if you don't watch for changes in the activity it will be too late catch them stray.

REMEMBER YOU CAN'T FIX IT IF IT WAS BROKEN BEFORE YOU BOUGHT IT

CHANGE = CURIOSITY

People and most especially men are "creatures of habit". You know when you met your boy how many little "habits" he had, the gym, his car, his family blah, blah, blah. So why would a leopard change his spots all of the sudden? Because of another animal, that is why, my guess is a kitty cat.

So think about all the habits he had when you met and ask your self what habits make you curios?

Third round of hard questions:

Does he want to have sex as often as he did 2 months ago?

Is his sex drive down but his party time with friends up?

Is the sex or affection mediocre to simply satisfy you for the moment?

Is he "defensive" when you ask questions that never used to bother him? << super red flag

Is your boy wandering? I think most women know if something is wrong but never want to admit it to themselves for various reasons. Some women think that they can fix the problem, some women think that their boy's problem will pass eventually or that it is a phase. Some women think they can't do better than the guy they have.

Some women who are openly sexual just see it as harmless flirtation. Make no mistake that "when in doubt, there is no doubt". Men (yes all men for you self righteous married females) are weak when it comes to sex and sensuality. The porn industry is dominated by wealthy smart females who know this axiom.

Attention equals affection and that includes us as well. Men, especially those in powerful positions and jobs almost crave the chase of anything a little too much because when they catch their prey the attention they receive is their victory prize.

I was walking my dog one day and when I approached a woman who when she saw my dog I told her, "Don't be afraid he does not bite". She quickly replied, "If it has teeth it bites". The same applies to men ladies. If something is amiss at home make no mistake your instincts are correct because if it has a penis it screws.

Be smart but more importantly be strong because if you are dating a guy who is cheating, wandering or just does not respect you like he initially did then kick him to the curb. The truth is if you are worried you can't do any better you better realize that if you are dating a cheater you certainly can't do any worse.

No, I don't cheat. For the record this knowledge comes from research - you heard that straight from the horse's mouth.