How To Talk To Women

"The Art Of Aural Sex"

We hear it time and again-men are easily sexually aroused by visual images. Looking around at the plethora of magazines and web sites covered with scantily clad women we`d be nuts not to agree. What we don`t hear much about though: the way women are more easily sexually aroused. Very simply, it`s via our ears. Women are aural creatures. We love men who know how to talk to women.

Oh don`t scowl at me. You`re thinking about how you`ve been called a pervert for explicitly telling your gal how she thrills you, or maybe for describing something new you`d like to try the next time you`re naked and tangled in the sheets. How could our ears be the way to get us hot and bothered if we scold or act scorched when you do describe your desires and fantasies? My dear fellows, it`s all about the style in which you do it.

Let me explain. It`s not that women are any less sexual than men, it`s just that it takes longer to get ready. Ever wonder why we`re such teases? Simple darling, it`s because that`s what we need to get our engines purring. Not only is our sexual plumbing quite a bit more complex than yours (and therefore literally takes more time to warm up), the way in which we get turned on is different.


Good Speakers Get Great Sex

Once you learn how to talk to women, how to really talk to women, you`re guaranteed a lifetime of great sex.

Back to us being aural and what it means: You like the graphic vividness of porn and the blunt raw language. You don`t usually require any emotional involvement with character or plot to entice you into the mood... but women often do. Women frequently prefer erotica to porn. We like words. We like a plot. Both can be very sexually graphic in context, but we need something that allows our minds to get wrapped up and emotionally involved in the story. We aren`t really prudes - well most of us. I know quite a few women would`ve been very happy to see a few explicit scenes added to... say... "The English Patient" because we were totally engrossed in the story and the characters.

Mind you I`ve made some very gross generalizations here, each human being is unique, and each has their own individual tastes. There are women who really like porn and there are men who really like erotica, and there are both who like both, and both who like neither.

But the point of this article is how you can use this information to your advantage. It`s all in how you learn to work it fellas. The point is to get us hot and bothered, right? In order to do so you need to learn two important points:


1) Stop using the language that turns you on. Figure out the language that turns your girl on.

2) Learn to move at a pace that leaves her craving more of you and your thoughts... not less.


MEN, PAY ATTENTION...

Avoid hitting us like a verbal freight train with your desire, instead, learn to use words to your advantage. Learn how to talk to women in a way that makes us feel comfortable, and involved. You need to get our imaginations working hard -- so you yourself don`t have to. The Don Juan`s and Casanova`s throughout history knew that you don`t push the envelope -- especially in the beginning -- you tease it, you caress it, and you nudge it along. They were masters at planting the seed of an idea in a woman`s mind and gently moving it forward with each encounter until finally the seduction seemed like the woman`s idea.