How Women Can Be Great In Bed

What does a woman need to do for a man to say, "Wow, She is great in bed"?

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That`s a great question!

Most women believe that they are pretty good in bed. In fact, while I`ve had many sexual partners, very few of them have been really great. Further, I`ve talked to a large number of guys with exactly the same experience. So, why the distance between what the women think, and the men know?

There are a number of reasons why:

* Men don`t usually have as much difficulty extracting pleasure out of sex as women do, and thus aren`t as demanding.

* Women don`t expect, (and often aren`t expected), to do very much in bed, thus they don`t!

* While women are focused on the quality of their relationships, they aren`t as focused on the quality or their sexual skills.

* Men don`t often tell women what they want from them.

* Women mistakenly think that all men want is the orgasm, when in fact; men have many varied interests in sex

* Men are taught very early on to focus on the woman rather than themselves.

So, if you were to distill things down to their most fundamental elements, I believe these are the things that make women great in bed:

* Enthusiasm - looking forward to sex; both giving AND receiving.

* Responsibility - taking responsibility for their own pleasure and getting involved with it - not putting all the pressure on their men.

* Openness - The willingness to talk about what she wants, and to ask what he likes. Then, to really understand what he means and question what she doesn`t.

* Willingness to experiment with new things.

* Availability - Being available for sex whenever, and wherever.

* Involvement - Willingness to do some of the work! Don`t make us do it all - get involved happily and voluntarily.

Some final points are in order:

* Obviously, different men want different things, but in general, most men enjoy oral sex. Learning to give good oral sex is a duty, not a luxury!

* Be willing to tell us what you like, and what you don`t. We`re not mind readers, but we DO want to know what curls your toes.

* If we don`t know, show us! Let`s work together to discover what works for you. We`ll do the same thing in return.

* If you`re absolutely against something we want to do, we`ll understand, but just not being sure isn`t the same as being dead set against, so be open to new ideas.

* Tell us your fantasies. We want to know what makes you tingle deep down in your depths.

* Tell us your limits. We love, and respect you. We don`t want to do anything to hurt you!

* But, trust us too. We`re probably more experienced sexually than you are! Take advantage of it!

* Don`t be shy - we`re all adults here. We want to see, touch, taste and feel your body - every part of it.

I hope that helps shed some light on this!