By Jackson Morris
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Asking her out on a date can be a sure thing everytime -- you just need to plan ahead, or have 'a plan' for those short-notice moments when it's spontaneous and you are looking for the right opportunity to pop the question.
Example: A single female with perfectly manicured fingers and toes gets out of a red sports car in her high heels and smoking hot second skin skirt. She has California girl hair and some dangly earrings that you only see one of at a time because the cell phone is sandwiching the other.
- Stop - Females that don't "keep it simple" or "natural" are high maintenance. She is high maintenance -- all that stuff she has is to fill an insatiable pit of low self-esteem.
She is a GOOD TIME girl and you will always have to impress her. She gets hit on all the time by strangers and says no because they don't "make an investment". Even the complete stranger can make an investment of time or compliments (the right ones) to garner her attention. Making her laugh is #1 at the top of the list. That will work with aforementioned and what follows.
Example 2: A single female in blue jeans with her hair in a ponytail coming out of her ball cap that has a ski logo on it, gets out of her jeep and ties her dog up as she goes into the store.
- Stop - This girl has very little makeup on and could not give a crap who sees her because her confidence level keeps her grounded and without concern for superficial compliments. This REAL TIME girl can not be bought or fooled and she will probably make YOU laugh before it is all over with.
I cite only two examples of females because ladies only come in two categories: High maintenance and low maintenance. One is more work, one is better sex. Take a guess which is which. Asking a girl out is about you and what you want. Do you want sex? Do you want a one night stand? Do you see her as girlfriend material? These are important to how you approach her. When men REALLY like a girl and want to date her legitimately it will be sincere in their voice, eyes and words.
When they see the girl solely as a sex object, it will be in their voice, eyes and words as well.
Public & Private
So you want to ask out a girl whom you have been eyeing for days at the espresso bar or local grocery store. You are in the public and your debut to ask her out on a date might be seen by others around her and make her uncomfortable. There is only one thing that will ease that scenario for her - your CONFIDENCE. What girl wants some nervous guy hitting on her at work with stalker sweat on his brow?
Here is the what: Have your name and number already written down on a folded (closed) piece of paper or business card. When you proceed through the line, wait until the transaction is over and you have flirted a bit. Look her right in the eyes and hand her the number. SMILING you SUGGEST, "I would love to show you what some of this food is like cooked". Or, "I would like to buy a cup of coffee for you instead of from you".
We are not always fortunate enough to have them trapped at a coffee shop or otherwise. Sometimes they are our co-workers and we are trapped their too, so if you ask out and strike out you have to hide out. Asking a girl at work is easy if you can "piggyback". Piggybacking is when you are at a company function or out with co-workers and you get her to leave that location to go to another.
"This is fun; I know another fun place where the boss does not hang out…wanna check it out?" Or when that function is coming to an end, ask her out for another night - you two are now not at work so it might feel different. Try this: "Can you keep a secret? Yes. Me too, let's go out sometime".
Asking Out New Girls
The other end of the spectrum is girls you want to ask out that you don't know or are not familiar with daily like the ones I mentioned. So when you ask out strangers remember there is only high and low maintenance. You can not always tell what is in their head but you can usually tell what is in their wallet by the examples stated.
So rule #1 is make them ALL laugh, saying something funny can disarm just about anyone. If you are good at that then moving right to the question is next.
High Maintenance: "I really like your outfit, you have great taste. Thank you. You can thank me if I don't spill my drink on you…oops there I go again thinking in the future. So how about it, want to risk a meal with a handsome klutz?"
It sounds ridiculous - but being vicious will challenge her and keep her attention.
Low Maintenance (easier/straight forward): "Hi, I would really like to take you out to dinner sometime, would you like to get together?" Low maintenance females are easy to ask out on a date because they don't want to compete among IHBU (insecure hot bitches union).
Asking a girl out is about YOU picking them, not the other way around so don't give up your power to the fuzzy triangle. Be confident and strong because you are the one who will ask for the date, plan the date and pay for the date. So ask like you mean it.
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